If your "best friend" of 10 years who lived an hour and a half away and came to visit you two to three weekends a month for the last eight years got married, then happened to move 10 houses away (two blocks) and pretty much never called you or hung out anymore, would he/she still be your best friend?
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hey when you get married you have a life to live, and that life doesnt always give people time to stay in touch, or some times things just dont seem to work out for you and the othwer person to hang out or talk on the phone I.E. a wife, a job,or a kid or all the above
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depends if you found someone else to take his/her place, if not then yes, they still are your best friend you just are out of touchwat?Comment
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Keep in mind that I'm married and have a child. I've always put them on hold to accomodate this "best friend' spending one night a week with me.Originally posted by megarock15 View PostComment
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Different people prioritize differently. I drifted from all my friends when I got serious with my girl years ago. When everything fell apart, those friends I drifted from were right there for me.
My childhood best friend moved to Utah, and we only talk occasionally now. I still consider him to hold a meaningful place in my life, but if we talk once a month on Facebook, it's a lot.
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I definately feel ya on the prioritize level. It's just messed up. It seems that anytime he makes an effort to come over she messes it up. For example, she was supposed to go hang out in her hometown two hours away one night. He came over by me. Suddenly he gets a call, "I had a crappy day at work and didn't go, will you come home and make me supper?"Originally posted by deevergote View PostDifferent people prioritize differently. I drifted from all my friends when I got serious with my girl years ago. When everything fell apart, those friends I drifted from were right there for me.
My childhood best friend moved to Utah, and we only talk occasionally now. I still consider him to hold a meaningful place in my life, but if we talk once a month on Facebook, it's a lot.
I'd have been like, "No. Make yourself something and I'll be home later."
On the other hand my wife wouldn't be that lazy either....
I feel like he has to try WAY to hard to make his marriage work and they've been married since October.Comment
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That could be it... he could be stuck in a situation that isn't healthy for him. I was in a similar situation, and my best friend is in that now... unhealty relationships that end up costing everything... eventually, the relationship itself.
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a best friend wouldnt stop talking to you.Comment
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I just keep thinking about the succubus episode of south park.
I have to figure out what song she sings to him to get him to do her every bidding, then learn it backwards
But seriously...He just is not the same person he was two years ago. It seems as if the life has been sucked out of him. His balls are definately in her purse at all times.Comment
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Yea. We used to text or call just for the hell of it. Now he's two blocks away and the only texts I ever get are, "sorry dude, can't make it."Originally posted by wed3k View PostComment
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my and my roomate used to hang all the time. but both of us pretty much got engaged withi 6 months of each other we pretty much stopped talking. not that we have aproblem with each other or anthing. it is just that we portorize things. try just give him a call. he busy and i bet his wife is wayy hotter than you are lol.
be a friend and don't drop him so fast, he gunna need you one day.1991 White Accord LX 5-speed aka Lil' RedComment
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Originally posted by wherm View Post
reread that post and i gotta say ouch. i say give the guy props for trying to make it work, but be there for him when it falls apart soon. my dad was like that too. my mom pretty much did not want dad to hang with his family at all. for 15 years i never knew my grandma and dad's side of the family. my dad just did that just to save the marraige.
props to the guy trying to save his marrige and that means putting his buddy on hold for now.1991 White Accord LX 5-speed aka Lil' RedComment
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Drop by un-invited..?
I would say yes, but i can see why you would question it. It does seem like a dick move, but that happens. "Hoes-B4-Bros" thing, ya know? He might just be in the beginning stages of his love and it's hard to balance. Give him some time and a little bit of room. He'll come around.
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I would say yes, but that he is way to into this girl. Lol
he will come around later.
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I too, am going through this same situation.
Best friends for 15 years, gets engaged and POOF!
My friend has finally started calling me, it took two years though.
greencb7inkc said it well, give it time.
On the other hand; it sure does suck to feel like you are close to some one-have them drop you like a hot rock, only to want you around again when its convenient for them.
I would advise you to not let it hurt your feelings.
It sounds like your friend has one of those really needy women who has to have %100 time and attention, or they are not "loved".
We call that co-dependency.
At least you know that he is a prisoner, and not avoiding you of his own free will.Comment
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