I need advice

[SoCqT08]

Alright here it goes....So I fell in love with this guy pretty close to 4 years ago! We dated for 3.5 years and then things turned sour when i found things out that he had been seeing another girl while i was at school. I care about him more than life itself. I will give him everything I have. The only problem is i dont know if he wants me for all the right reasons. I go to school, I have a job, and im very independent. Yet he doesnt have a job, doesnt go to school. I love him and care about him a ton and really want to work things out...and no not just for the sex. But how can i make him realize in order for us to be together he has to get all of his shit straightened out or there is a chance i could walk out of his life for good? Please help!

Thank you!

You mean a bunch to me and i want you to know that!

[Gemini]

arent you madspleen's girl?

[EdgarCb7]

arent you madspleen's girl?

Uh-oh!!

Either way, the dude sounds lazy... ditch 'em.

[TypeG]

that's what i thought, LOL. later.

[SoCqT08]

yes that happens to be who im talking about... i am his girl but we arent "together" I care about him a ton and i want him to realize things have to change!

[TypeG]

so, in other words, you want him to see this thread. later.

[EdgarCb7]

tell HIM what you just told US....that way he knows what's on YOUR mind.

[straightedge]

so, in other words, you want him to see this thread. later.

My exact thoughts.

[CA1978]

Your young, enjoy college life, live a little. You already know the answer to your question yet you do not want to listen to yourself. Most of us guys don't change we are who we are. Just my 2 cents.

[SoCqT08]

i have already told him...he is trying but i just want it to get better soon! I miss having him in my life!

[sublime]

honestly this probably wasnt the best way to approach a problem like this, especially when his birthday was just a couple days ago. i dunno, i hope you guys work things out. keep us updated.

[TypeG]

i have already told him...he is trying but i just want it to get better soon! I miss having him in my life!

what is he trying? to stop seeing other girls or getting a job.? later.

[SoCqT08]

I know his birthday was a couple days ago. I spent 4 days with him last week when i was home from college. THis is when i finally realized all i want to do is work things out with him. He knows that i care about him, i just want him to turn things around. This is just so people know i care and i REALLY want to work things out. I would have never of posted anything about him if this was meant to hurt him. we all have priorities in our life and i know he is trying but i just want advice. he is trying, he has had interviews, the distance doesnt make it any easier. I love him alot!

[sublime]

he is going to see this thread and he will probably feel "rushed". i bet he really likes you too, and i'm sure he is doing his best to get things figured out. the time will come. to find a job around here is like finding a giraffe in my backyard.

[sirs1ayer]

long term relationships suck
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