I was going out with my girlfriend for 16 months. It was great, we never really fought, I thought she might be the one. I know Im a bit young, at 20, to be making that claim, but we clicked at every level possible. I could try to assign the title best friend to anyone else in my life, but it only really stuck to her.
Basically, the story goes that she goes to school in Boston, I go to school in York (southern PA). We had been in a long distance scenario before, when she was still in high school (shes 2 years younger than me.) and it was fine, there were no real problems that I could see. Even at home shes an hour away from me. She got to school, and pretty much everything changed. She no longer had time for me, and it almost seemed like making time was a chore for her. This went on for a few weeks, I confronted her about it, and things got better for a few days. Then they went right back to how they were before, and whenever I confronted her about it, she would just reply "Well, Im trying." Eventually, this got to be too much for me to handle. I told her that I wasnt happy with the amount of effort she was putting in (ie time to talk to her, phone IM, whatever), and that I didnt want to do this anymore if she couldnt make more time for me. We broke up for less than a day. She called me, crying, said she couldnt deal with losing me, blah blah blah. naturally, since I didnt REALLY want to end it in the first place, I took her back. This was last Monday -> Tuesday. Things were the best they had been since she got to school for the next few days. We talked all the time, I felt like she was putting a ton of effort into the relationship, I was finally really happy about everything. I went to my friends house for the weekend, in Philly, and we didnt talk alot there, but I figured it was ok, because we were both busy. I got back to school and things had reverted right back to where they were before the short-lived break up. We werent talking, it was horrible. She even slept in some guys room for a night (although, there were other circumstances that made it way more understandable than this sounds.)
Well, tonight was where it all ended. We were talking online, and she basically says "We need to talk." She then proceeds to break up with my online, after 16 months. It was probably the biggest slap in the face Ive ever gotten. We talked on the phone, but everything had already been said. I told her that once the phone was hung up, it was over, for good. She said she knew, and was almost crying at this point. I know its hitting her just as hard as it is me, but I cant bring myself to have any sympathy for her whatsoever.
The problem is, I do still love her, and she still means the world to me. I dont know what to do, because if she calls me tomorrow and wants me back again, Ill probably take her back.
This is the most alone Ive felt in at least 2 and a half years.
Basically, the story goes that she goes to school in Boston, I go to school in York (southern PA). We had been in a long distance scenario before, when she was still in high school (shes 2 years younger than me.) and it was fine, there were no real problems that I could see. Even at home shes an hour away from me. She got to school, and pretty much everything changed. She no longer had time for me, and it almost seemed like making time was a chore for her. This went on for a few weeks, I confronted her about it, and things got better for a few days. Then they went right back to how they were before, and whenever I confronted her about it, she would just reply "Well, Im trying." Eventually, this got to be too much for me to handle. I told her that I wasnt happy with the amount of effort she was putting in (ie time to talk to her, phone IM, whatever), and that I didnt want to do this anymore if she couldnt make more time for me. We broke up for less than a day. She called me, crying, said she couldnt deal with losing me, blah blah blah. naturally, since I didnt REALLY want to end it in the first place, I took her back. This was last Monday -> Tuesday. Things were the best they had been since she got to school for the next few days. We talked all the time, I felt like she was putting a ton of effort into the relationship, I was finally really happy about everything. I went to my friends house for the weekend, in Philly, and we didnt talk alot there, but I figured it was ok, because we were both busy. I got back to school and things had reverted right back to where they were before the short-lived break up. We werent talking, it was horrible. She even slept in some guys room for a night (although, there were other circumstances that made it way more understandable than this sounds.)
Well, tonight was where it all ended. We were talking online, and she basically says "We need to talk." She then proceeds to break up with my online, after 16 months. It was probably the biggest slap in the face Ive ever gotten. We talked on the phone, but everything had already been said. I told her that once the phone was hung up, it was over, for good. She said she knew, and was almost crying at this point. I know its hitting her just as hard as it is me, but I cant bring myself to have any sympathy for her whatsoever.
The problem is, I do still love her, and she still means the world to me. I dont know what to do, because if she calls me tomorrow and wants me back again, Ill probably take her back.
This is the most alone Ive felt in at least 2 and a half years.
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