scared...

[stewie]

okay, scenario time...your at your gf's appartment, chilling with her on her bed, and out of nowhere, she tells you how she hasnt been taking her birth control for almost a month and that shes not quite sure when she should be getting her period....then proceeds to tell you that if she is pregnant then she will take care of everything...

now my gf already has a child (not mine) but right now im shittin bricks...cause i only went bareback on her a few times and thats when we're both drunk (i dont drink that often). so my question is: if your gf brought this topic up on you, would you freak out? she says that if shes pregnant, she'll get an abortion, and if shes not pregnant, then everything will just be the same....BUT she wont tell me if shes pregnant or not or if she has an abortion, either way shes going to be non-pregnant...but would you still be scared?

[head4life]

"your at your gf's appartment, chilling with her on her bed, and out of nowhere, she tells you how she hasnt been taking her birth control for almost a month and that shes not quite sure when she should be getting her period....then proceeds to tell you that if she is pregnant then she will take care of everything..."

owned


lol that sucks dude lets hope shes not

my gf is on the pill because I fucking hate condoms she knows better then to stop taking it without telling me (god I hope lol)

just be glad you dont live in SD

abortion is illegal there

[stewie]

...owned big time...yeah i know....

would you at least want to know whether or not she was pregnant though? cause either way she's telling me that she isnt pregnant....but i kinda think she might be, cause the other day when we were in the store buying a box of condoms, she was pointing out the at-home-birth-test things saying how it would be cool to use one of those....at the time i thought nothing of it...but i totally remember her hinting about this now...

either way though, im stayin with her...wouldnt ditch her over something like this.....just wanting to know how you guys would feel about this if it were your gf that told you what i just said..

[head4life]

if my gf was pregnant I would want to keep the baby

if your going to be with her long term I would def think about keeping it and starting a family depending on how old you are and if your able to support it money wise

I would go get a test tomorrow no matter what she tells you


go get her tested

[jd6829]

that sucks she didnt tell you about it. but if she is pregnant, please dont get an abortion. if you know you arent ready to have another child, at least give birth to it and give it up for adoption. give the baby a chance to live.

[stormblkcb7]

If she is pregnant I would suck it up and deal with it man, there is no way I would take away that baby's life. However she should have told you this right when she stopped taking the pill.

[Turbo Dave]

i had sex with my girlfriend for a year and a half without a condom or birth control.... i got pull out power... ur fine.

[badmanferg]

^^^^the stupidest fucking thing i've heard today....

keep pulling out----better yet; stop fucking all together....lord knows we need more fuck-ups in the world

[bacal36]

Sucks that she kinda hid that from ya. Makes me kinda wonder what else is hidden? Everyone has skeletons in the closet, but this is big!

I hope everything works out for you.

['93accordse]

as a father of two i beg you not to get an abortion. I understand that not everyone can support a child, whether financially, mentally or physically. But that is a baby, a life, that you and your g/f have created. Please consider adoption and give this child the opportunity to live a full life. Hell, my wife and I will adopt your child, if it means that over abortion.

I was in your situation at 19. And as a first reaction the first thing out of my mouth was "abortion". But that lasted less than 30 mins. Now that I have my daughter and son, I couldn't imagine my life without them. They are parts of me, and I love them in a way I never knew existed. If your girl is pregnant that child is a part of you as well. Think about that. I know it's scary, trust me, i really know! I was 19, had to get an apartment, a job, everything. We had our hard times, I'm not gonna lie to you. But looking back I wouldnt trade it for anything in the world.

Please consider what i'm saying to you. There are good couples out there, READY to be fathers and mothers, but for biological reasons cannot have children of their own, who will love your child and provide a good home for him/her. Good luck in whatever you decide

[stewie]

well...we're both 20, im definetly not ready for a child...finacially wise i could...but im just to young to have a child right now.

shes going to the clinic tomorow to find out...either way shes going to tell me that shes not pregnant...we had a long talk about this today on the phone...she said shes comfortable with being pregnant from me...and that i have nothing to worry about..i know she wants to be with me for a long time...ive been friends with her for almost 7 years...then in the past few months we've started dating...and i know i want to be with her for a long time..and she feels the same way...but...im just scared knowing i could of gotten her pregnant...

[HenRoc]

well...we're both 20, im definetly not ready for a child...finacially wise i could...but im just to young to have a child right now..

Then these are words to live by:

'Don't be a fool wrap your tool.'

Seriously though if your not ready man, and shes not taking the pill...don't even bother diving in there without some head gear.

Pill or no pill, better to be safe than sorry.

And do not abort if she does get pregnant.

[91 accordlx]

dont get her an abotion cause they stick any kinds of shit up their you know what and it migth harm them from inside the body
and why are you having with out protection

[stewie]

dont get her an abotion cause they stick any kinds of shit up their you know what and it migth harm them from inside the body
and why are you having with out protection

read first post, only time ive gone in without a condom on is when we are both drunk and its a spur of the moment type thing...

and as already stated, i had no idea she wasnt taking her birthcontrol...had i known that i wouldnt of even had sex with her...

[19dabeast85]

1. She should not hide something from you that is a part of you as much as herself, even though sure the girl goes through all the trouble with pregnancy, but still it isn't right.

2. She may think that you would rather not have to be troubled with any of this and will be very mad at her if she tells you that she IS pregnant, and thus has decided to tell you NO either way.

3. Don't think that just because she "seems okay" about it, that she is ok because girls are good at hiding feelings that may be a burden to someone else, especially if she tends to be independant.

4. I would sit down (not over the phone) and tell her that you are not afraid of finding out the truth and are just as concerned as she is about this and you would like to go with her to get tested. It is your duty to take at least 50% responsibility over an issue like this.

5. If she demands that you not go with her and she doesn't want to tell you either way, I would ask why she won't trust you with the truth. There could possibily be trust issues that need to be solved if you want this relationship to be longterm.

my .02