GirlFriend Wanting 3some!?

[Gyuri87]

Ok this probably will be the weirdest Off Topic Thread today but I don't know what to think about it. My Girlfriend is Bi. She has already shared with me before that she fantasizes on a 3some which would include me and another girl. However, she wouldn't let me do anything to that other girl. I would be able to interact with her and her only while she does whatever she wants to the other girl. I admit I've never been with 2 girls and it would be fun to just even watch her do her things with the other girl but shouldn't I be able to join in with the other chick? She says that she would be super jealous and would get turned off and upset if I did. She thinks if she does it with a girl it is less cheating than with a guy. She says that if I was Bi and it would involve a guy and me she wouldn't mind but not girl. Knowing that this would never happen since i am completely straight and would get even turn off just knowing there's some dude not too far around. As much as I think it's exciting, I am disturbed by her fantasies. When I really think about it, I know it's wrong but at the same time what dude wouldn't love it?

What would you guys do in this kind of situation or what should I even think of it. Is it right or I'm being cheated on if she does anything with a girl and even though it seems less wrong it is just as much.

All this is more confusing than my CB *sigh*

[Chrisisiced]

Its a cool idea but i definitely wouldnt do it if i couldnt have any interaction with the other girl. Its just not fair. How come she gets to "double dip" and you can't?

[Accord R33]

if she is doing stuff with girls when your not around...I would consider that cheating.

if she wants to do things to girls when you're around. just sit back, relax and enjoy the show man. just be courtious and turn off your cell phone.

[skilzz]

i say watever. just play along and when shits goin down she problywont even notice ur doin stuff to that other girl. just do wat she says and see how it turns out

[Ralphie]

Its a cool idea but i definitely wouldnt do it if i couldnt have any interaction with the other girl. Its just not fair. How come she gets to "double dip" and you can't?

Exactly.

If i were you id just pass it up.

It's not even that big of a deal anyway and really her sleeping with a chick is exactly the same as you sleeping with a chick.....thats bs that its less then cheating with a guy...

its not really cheating because shed have your ok and all but tech its the same thing if you really think about it.

So you have to decide if youd just wanna be a spectator or join in.

If its the later and she isnt into that then she isn't in it for your pleasure as well as hers and thats bs so just pass it up.

And keep in mind that this could make or break a relationship so its not to be taken lightly.

[Bandoni]

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[starchland]

I think it is unfair and hypocritical if she thinks she is going to have a threesome and only she can touch the girl that is bs

[chessboxer]

I may or may not have had a 3 way once, and it MAY have been the best night of my life.
Things might start with you doing nothing to the other girl, but if alcohol is involved, that will change. Also, try to see if you can do stuff to the other girl, but not "finish"on/in the other girl.
Best of luck!

[cp[mike]]

Exactly.

If i were you id just pass it up.

It's not even that big of a deal anyway and really her sleeping with a chick is exactly the same as you sleeping with a chick.....thats bs that its less then cheating with a guy...

its not really cheating because shed have your ok and all but tech its the same thing if you really think about it.

So you have to decide if youd just wanna be a spectator or join in.

If its the later and she isnt into that then she isn't in it for your pleasure as well as hers and thats bs so just pass it up.

And keep in mind that this could make or break a relationship so its not to be taken lightly.

i agree... she has interest in other chicks, so shes allowed to play with them in front of you? you have interest in other chicks too, why arent you allowed to play with them too? just because thats too "normal" and considered cheating?

this situation, while potentially awesome, has potential to put a huge tension between you... id only go through with it if it were done fairly.

plus i wouldnt be able to refrain from touching the other girl anyway.

[AG17CB7]

what's the point of a threesome if you can't touch the other girl. tell her you won't do it unless you get to touch.

[Shadow1]

no matter if its with a girl or a boy its cheating. i bet if you had sex with another dude she would leave you b/c thats cheating. same for her. if shes not gonna let you do anything to the other girl then id say no. i know being a dude, a guy aint gonna be able to keep his hands off another girl if he's in a 3 some.

[benji]

Things might start with you doing nothing to the other girl, but if alcohol is involved, that will change. Also, try to see if you can do stuff to the other girl, but not "finish"on/in the other girl.
Best of luck!

Lol, exactly what I was thinking.

Anyways, even if it does cause a fight, at least you got two chicks at the same time, and you could probably recover from a fight if both of you like each other.

[deevergote]

I'd be afraid of dating someone that was bi... you can be left for ANYONE... not an easy thing to think about!


But yeah... it'd be cheating if she got with someone else. At least in my book. If she was straight and decided it'd be "cute" to fool around with another girl, ok... maybe not. But she's bi. She likes girls the same way she likes guys. That means any fooling around she does is cheating.

Personally, I don't think any healthy relationship should involve a 3rd person... I'm not saying it can't, or hasn't... but things between 2 people can be complicated. Add a third person, and you're not just tripling the confusion... it grows exponentially. If you do it once, you'll do it again... and again. And it'll become normal. Then your bi girlfriend may leave you for the girl. Also unsettling. Maybe not... who knows...


If you really want to be with this girl, don't do it. Whether or not you can touch the other girl. If you think it may be coming to an end... fuck it... have fun. And touch the other girl




As for the comment about alcohol... yeah, you may get away with enjoying both girls at the time... but the next day, your girl will be PISSED.

[Gyuri87]

Thanks for the advices guys. I know all this sounds crazy but besides her Bi nympho side, she's an amazing caring GF. I must admit though that I would enjoy doing an other girl. Not because she's not enough or anything but because it would be new and therefore exciting. It's not like I would have feelings for the other girl. What I haven't told though is that it would probably be her cousin! Does that chaoge anything?

[deevergote]

Cousin by blood or marriage?